you should ask yourself a couple of things (about todd).. are you generally happier with him in your life? is this a direct consequence of him being in your life? if no, well there is a problem. now why do you think about leaving todd? do you think there is something better out there? you seemed ready to settle down and chill with him at first, so maybe after the hearts and stars phase, the reality of the relationship may be settling in. is there anything about him that bugs you or turns you off, you should look at that objectively. can you live with it? it will only get worse with time if you don't confront it. he should be asking himself the same question. the two of you sound great for each other, so by all means don't just toss the last few months away because of uncertainty. just talk about it (with him). it may suck at first, but you should feel better about things if you two are straight with each other.. or at least you should know where things stand and make better decisions based on that knowledge.

i wouldn't want toxic waste in my back yard either..