Letting down my guard, or not

Sunday, June 22nd, 2025 09:20 pm
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I've been reading my own book Embodying Hope as preparation for trying to get it out in the world again. Turns out there's a lot of good stuff in there. And a few things I might want to change. I haven't decided yet if I'm going to make a revised edition. Small, manageable steps!

Find Calm: Practice Rest and Regulation talks about low tone dorsal vagal rest, which is a fancy way of saying a very old nervous system response that's similar to freeze, but which happens when we feel relationally safe enough to completely let down our guard. It's the response that leads a child to melt into the arms of a trusted adult.

I've been thinking about that in relation to the bodywork series I just finished. I felt safe enough with the practitioner to continue going, but not emotionally safe enough to fully let down my guard. I would get sleepy during the sessions, but I don't know if that was this rest and relaxation response, or just dissociation. It's hard to know when to push through something uncomfortable to get the benefit from it, and when to quit because it's not a good enough fit.

Battleship Exchange 2025: Specific Likes

Sunday, June 22nd, 2025 09:41 pm
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(In Progress)

Hi there! If you're reading this, you're probably a Battleship creator looking for some more information before filling one of my prompts. I salute you! Thanks for creating for me.

Other than my DNWs, feel free to disregard any and all information in this post. If you've written something you're excited about, I will be happy to receive it even if I'm not familiar with the fandom. Unrequested tags that don't violate a DNW and seem in line with what I'd like are 100% fine!

My Absolute Favorite Battleship Tags:

Art Likes )
On Podfics )

General Likes )
Sexual Likes )
List of Favorite Fandoms )

Fandom-Specific Likes:

The Chronicles of Chrestomanci - Diana Wynne Jones

I love this series most for the way it engages with complex familial dynamics. My favorite characters are Christopher, Conrad, Millie, Cat, and Tacroy, roughly in that order.
Christopher/Conrad/Millie is a beautiful ship, one that lends itself well to epistolary. I'd love them as adults or something from their wild teenage years. Sex between any pair of them or all three would be wonderful.
I'd love to read adult imaginings of Cat, Janet, Roger, and Julia. Maybe Cat's leaning on them as he adjusts to being Chrestomanci. Roger/Joe, or queer interpretations of Roger in general, would be lovely.
I'd also like explorations of Cat and Gwendolyn's dynamic, whether or not she actually appears in the fic. Cat interacting with Mrs. Sharp as he grows up would be fun too.
I LOVE Tacroy and would enjoy fic that explores how it feels to be separate from one's soul. Tacroy/Flavian would delight me.

DC Animated Universe
Any character, dynamic, or ship I list in the Young Justice section applies here, and vice versa.
**I will devour any and all Superbat identity porn you put in front of me. Any continuity, any degree of enemies, friends, boyfriends, or lovers.**
My other favorite DC characters are Batwoman (Kate Kane), Batgirl/Oracle (Barbara Gordon), Dick Grayson, Barry Allen, Wally West, Martian Manhunter (and his various associates), John Stewart, and Roy Harper.
My pet rarepair is Booster Gold/Guy Gardner.
I enjoy complex mentor/mentee dynamics, with or without sex or romance.
I'm not particularly a fan of the "Batfamily" pool of tropes.

Discworld
My greatest soft spot is for the Vimes/Vetinari dynamic (Sybil and Drumknott being, of course, very relevant) but I'm enthusiastic about all the characters in this series. Who do you love? Show me why.


Dumbing of Age (Webcomic)
Dungeon Meshi
Elementary
El Goonish Shive (Webcomic)
Father Brown
Fire and Hemlock - Diana Wynne Jones
Jeeves - P. G. Wodehouse
Leverage
Merlin
Miraculous Ladybug
October Daye - Seanan McGuire
The Once and Future King - T. H. White
Paint Your Wagon
White Collar
Widdershins (Webcomic)



Young Justice
Aqualad/Clone Roy Harper. Birdflash. Red Tornado. Dick Grayson. Miss Martian. Artemis. Transfem readings of Miss Martian. Dick?Artemis, esp. Blue Beetle/Impulse if they date and/or hook up pre identity reveal.
The Will, Artemis, Jade, Lian, and Wally family.

Kitty Noir/Scarabella. DJWIFI. Identity porn.


Battleship Tag DNWs:


Other DNWs )

Sigh...Finally Some Good News

Sunday, June 22nd, 2025 07:52 pm
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[Hopefully to drag me out of my apathy, if not the brain fog.]

The Good News Report....and as always, good news is often in the eye of the beholder.

1.Appeals Court blocks Louisiana law forcing Ten Commandments displays in classrooms. Separation of church and state is the law of the land. Shoving Christianity in kids' faces through their public schools is still, for now, illegal.

NBC News

Honestly, it's not as if the idiotic Republicans are following the commandments anyhow, why are they insisting on wasting money fighting for them to be taught in public schools?

2. A fundraiser organized to protest Colorado’s 568-day backlog for processing sexual assault forensic exams resulted in a $6,000 award to the state this week to urge faster action.

Denver Post

3. Washington D.C. residents honor Juneteenth with a Jubilee and Freedom Walk on the very path where enslaved people once escaped to freedom.

Washington Post

4.Barrington, Rhode Island : Members of the Town Council vote unanimously to adopt a resolution declaring it a sanctuary town for transgender people and all members of the LGBTQIA2S+ community.

East Bay Rhode Island

5.New York, NY: More than 75% of the city’s municipal vehicles—about 21,500—are now green (hybrid, electric, or running on renewable biofuel).

https://gothamist.com/news/some-positive-climate-news-for-once-nycs-vehicle-fleet-is-75-green

6.Communities in Los Angeles, New York, Pittsburgh, Chicago, Charlotte, San Diego, Boston, Houston, San Antonio, Minneapolis, Worcester, MA, and other cities show up publicly in support of their neighbors facing unjust ICE raids, detainment, and deportation.

7.Four top lawyers leave the Paul Weiss law firm to start their own firm in protest of its leader’s deals to dodge an executive order that would have limited its business.

https://www.reuters.com/legal/government/more-partners-leave-paul-weiss-join-new-law-firm-2025-06-09/

8.Dementia prevalence among older adults was significantly lower among individuals born more recently (1944-1948) compared to those born earlier (1919-1923), with a more pronounced decline in women, a new study conducted in the US, Europe, and England showed. - SOURCE: This study was led by Xiaoxue Dou, Centre for the Business and Economics of Health, The University of Queensland, Brisbane, Australia.

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2834750#google_vignette

9.Dan Mancina, a blind skateboarder, creates the world’s first adaptive skatepark in Detroit, Michigan.

https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/adaptive-skatepark-dan-mancina

10.The EU will provide emergency funds to pro-democracy media outlet Radio Free Europe after the U.S. president cut its grants.

https://www.euronews.com/my-europe/2025/05/20/eu-to-provide-55mln-in-emergency-funds-to-help-keep-radio-free-europe-afloat

the rest of the 49 )

Good night and Good Luck, and in case you didn't find anything good enough to make you smile above?

Here's a picture of some flowers on my walk today to the grocery store.

Weekend cooking bender [food]

Sunday, June 22nd, 2025 06:30 pm
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Saturday we had friends over for a thank-you dinner for cat-sitting for us. I made two kinds of curry out of 660 Curries, an eggplant dish that is a total star recipe, with toasted peanuts, sesame seeds, white poppy seeds, coconut, and more. The second dish was a paneer curry with a sauce made from red peppers and cashews. LOVE that cookbook.

For dessert, I pulled two aged bags of raspberries out of the freezer, thawed them, and whirred them in the food processor with 1/2 C of water. Then I mixed in ~ 3/4 C simple syrup made from 1 C sugar, 1 C water, heated up. I pushed the slurry through a sieve, stuck it in the fridge, and then we had fun passing around the ice cream maker. DAMN raspberry sorbet is amazing.

Today was the usual pancakes for breakfast, a batch of muesli, some black beans for backup meals later in the week, roasting some broccoli, then using that plus some other fridge ingredients to assemble some pasta bakes.

I feel fortunate that I can afford to eat well, both with regards to the cost of food and with regards to time in which to cook it.

It's going to be another busy research week, so now it's time to buckle up.

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Sunday, June 22nd, 2025 06:37 am
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First climbing experience, and after an hour of trying different walls Sophia made it to the top!
Original is here on Pixelfed.scot.

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As promised I went to the monthly women's capital-L Leather munch, complete with bootblacks, at C.C. Attle's. TL;DR: A+ would munch with those ladies women people again!

I'd never set foot in CC's before, which isn't as odd as it sounds because I was under the impression that it was very much a men's space. And it used to be, but times change, and what was the Leather bar — the Cuff — got taken over by someone with a corporate mindset who decided to give yet another home to "gay bros" as Dancer described them. CC's is dark and loud, but it's hella queer. There's mirror junk hanging from the ceiling, which serves the same function as Pony's mummer junk: putting the hets on notice. They also let the Leather women reserve tables, set up the bootblacks' chairs, and pimp their night on the video. And their beer selection is acceptable. So CC's management gets a thumb up from me.

I must say, the Leather munch seems to be flirtier and less popular with n00bs than the women's munch. It may be my preferred munch from now on. The organizers, B & A from the women's munch, weren't the only people I knew there. There was lovely young Squirt, whom I met a few years ago at another event. There was also H, whom I met at Folsom in '17.

H deserves her own paragraph because she looms large in my memory for giving me the most intense damn scene of my life. I knew she'd moved (back?) into the area last year at the latest, but I hadn't seen her out & about until last night. I managed not to squee audibly, but only just. H says she just doesn't get out as much as she used to to public events. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but it's a bummer for yours truly. And of course she has an unfairly attractive partner, whom I think I met all those years ago.

I got to tell Folsom stories to the bootblacks. The boots I was wearing are now shiiiny. Happiness.

I got invited to a play party tonight, but it's in Tukwila, which is $$$ to get to without a car. Le sigh, because I have every confidence it'll be good.

I was a good girl and left after only a couple of hours at the munch. And why? Because I'd already promised Dancer I'd help her move stuff to storage. I misrecorded a hair appointment this afternoon and thereby deprived her of about an hour, which only compounded the chaos that others introduced. We did get the stuff mostly moved by the time Dancer dropped me off at my stylist's, only a few minutes late, in a U-Haul van*.

I'd proposed to Funny Lady that we meet up in Georgetown for their Pride thing, but I'm too beat. Fortunately, so is she, having just returned from visiting family back east.



*My stylist realized before I did that I was a lesbian in a U-Haul. It is to laugh.

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Saturday, June 21st, 2025 08:57 pm
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1. Finished watching Nonnas on Netflix. It's the true story of a man who decides to open a restaurant in Staten Island featuring the cooking of grandmothers, after his mother dies. Stars Vince Vaughn, Lorraine Braco, Talia Shire, Susan Sarandon, and Brenda Vaccaro, along with Linda Cappelina (who was in ER and Freaks & Geeks).

I looked it up? It's actually in Staten Island. Open on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, and features Nonnas of the World - basically grandmothers from around the world come and cook there. It's located on Hyatt Street in the historic district, not far from the Staten Island Ferry - which is free now.

Oh, this is tempting. You need to get reservations in advance, and have a two hour seating. Also, cash only or Vemo. (They don't appear to want to pay the credit card fees.)

Also, they have gluten-free items (clearly a real Italian establishment, you can always tell by the gluten free items on the menu).

It's called Enoteca Maria.

2. The Senate Parliamentarian Cuts Out Chunks of the Big Beautiful Ugly Bill because they violate the Byrd Rule.
Bill had chunks cut out of it due to the fact they violate the Byrd Rule of Law )

3. Apparently Pope Leo has been sending folks to help stop ICE raids.

Bishop Michael Pham - the first U.S. appointment by Pope Leo - showed up at immigration court along with other religious leaders, in solidarity with immigrants going through the legal process, but where ICE has been arresting people. No ICE arrests were made. San Diego, California.

Go HERE

a wonderful day

Saturday, June 21st, 2025 06:44 pm
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Today was wonderful!

It started out with meeting a young woman in a wheelchair, birdwatching by a small pond with cattails.

"I think I saw an American bittern," she said.

Later I brought some catalpa blossoms to a friend, and they gave me an iced, homemade-banana-syrup-and-oat-milk latte to take with me on my errands. It was a hot day and the drink was perfect!



My errands included buying a sickle to cut this long grass.



Not now: now I want to let it alone, as the fireflies and butterflies and bees enjoy it (and also I enjoy it). But later, in the fall, when the time comes to cut it. A lawn mower does a horrible, chewy job, and the shears I have are blunt.** So I want to try a sickle. I saw people cutting grass with sickles in Timor-Leste. Here is my sickle. I've named her Kusakari (grass cutter).



Now, as it happens, I also have a lump hammer, which the healing angel named Petra, and which is great for smashing open hickory nuts or acorns. Here she is, posing with some of last year's hickory nuts.



Well ... if we introduce.... Petra to Kusakari.... OMG!



Then on the way home from my errands, I was driving along a stretch of road that's marked "Turtle Crossing." Usually this is a depressing stretch of road because in spite of the sign, what I mainly see are crushed turtles -_-

But today I saw a live one, craning its neck, preparing to risk its life to get across the road. So I pulled over, went back, picked it up, and carried it across. When I set it down, it trundled on down to the water that was waiting for it.

ONE TURTLE LIFE SAVED. Yaaay!

And now I'm going to eat strawberries and whipped cream. PERFECT DAY.

**Yes, I could sharpen them. In fact I have sharpened them in the past and probably will in the future... but ... sickle!

ETA: The sickle's name should be KusaKARI, not KusaKIRI--corrected that now.
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Today I decided to go back to the boathouse after rowing and coffee, to continue work on various boathouse projects for a couple hours.

First, I rehung the boat light charging station on L-hooks, and while I was at it, hung up a second shoe holder to serve as a walkie talkie charging station. I was able to get everything powered up thanks to having obtained some 8-foot extension cords at the hardware store yesterday.

I also moved all of the supplies for keeping megaphones and coxboxes charged up, onto a temporary portable step unit.

Updated charging area

This now gets all of the rowing electronics into one place inside the boathouse, instead of having everything scattered in different locations. It also gets all the electronics to a spot where they can be recharged regularly.

Once that was done, I turned my attention to our first aid cart. During this transition, it, along with some of our electronics, has been living inside a shipping container.

Something about the first aid cart has been bothering me for years. The original person who assembled it, assembled the wheels incorrectly. See if you can tell what I mean from the photo below. Up until now I really haven't been in a position to do anything about the problem. Vexing. Especially when you consider that people periodically want to wheel the cart to new locations during our special events.

Craftsman cart with wheels incorrectly installed

I kind of feel like there isn't a WORSE way to assemble the wheels!

At one point, the wheels were so poorly fastened that one of the wheels came off entirely. So when I took things apart to swap the wheels to the correct positions, I encountered multiple sizes of nuts and bolts. But at least now the cart will actually roll properly, and with any luck no one will have to tilt this beast on its back to fix the wheels again anytime soon!

Along with the wheel problem, there has been some sort of long-term lingering issue with one of the bottom drawers, where it refused to stay completely closed. Super annoying. When trying to work on the wheels, I ascertained that I would need to remove the bottom drawers to access the wheel nuts from inside the cart. That eventually led me to watch an internet video about how to remove this type of drawer from this type of cart (and it turns out there are two different overall types of cart/drawer; initial hits were for the other type. Complicated!).

The internet video I eventually found helped me to understand that one of the plastic drawer removal latches had snapped off, making it extra difficult to remove the drawer.

A couple extra minutes with a small screwdriver and a bunch of swearing did the trick.

Intact latch:
Intact Craftsman drawer latch

Snapped-off latch:
Broken Craftsman drawer latch

In the end, I did not reinstall this "trouble drawer," as that seemed unwise.

Once the wheels were fixed, I relocated the cart to a new, more prominent spot inside the boathouse:

First aid cart repositioned

It just seems to me that having a first aid cart in a prominent, accessible location is a good idea.

I was so pleased to find that the cart fit exceptionally well into the space where I wanted to put it. The only issue was that the ground was far from level in that location. So I used a chunk of an old wooden platform that used to be underneath our oars, to provide a stable surface for the cart to rest on.

Totally satisfying projects!

Now I can turn my attention to the next boathouse project, constructing a long-term charging station for the coxboxes and megaphones.

Photo cross-post

Saturday, June 21st, 2025 12:29 pm
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Sophia is watching the boys in the street have a water fight.
Original is here on Pixelfed.scot.

Updates...

Saturday, June 21st, 2025 11:15 am
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1. Feeling much better - the sickness is gone, finally. No cough, no runny nose. Still feel a bit wiped, but for the first time in a week - I ate something other than chicken vegetable soup or chicken broth.
photo of chicken soup )
As you can see it was homemade. The store bought variety has things like yeast, corn starch, etc in it.

Although I did buy the broth - I've never the energy or time to make my own broth.

Had eggs this morning and a gluten free english muffin. It should sustain me until noon. I'm hoping to vote in the primary this mayoral primary this weekend.

2. Wales apologized. I explained my issues regarding what she said about COVID, by laying out my experience with it and how it had affected my life, and she apologized and thanked me for taking the time to explain.

I think people forget that everyone's body is different, and illnesses affect all of us differently.

3. Even though our mass media is attempting to downplay the number of people who protested during No Kings Day to roughly 5-6 million as opposed to 12-13 million as Alt National Parks (the coalition of 5051) stated, I'm going with Alt National Parks number for the following reasons:
Read more... )

4. Buffy Rewatch...S3 so far has no duds, I've not skipped or groaned through an episode.

And damn, by episode 7, I really wish someone would kill off Xander. ugh Xander )

Oh, I've been paying attention to the credits here and there, and discovered something interesting? There are about five to six producers who are not writers. Also various people involved who don't write for the show and are editors. The credits are lengthy. Sandy Gallin and Gail Berman produced, along with the Kuzuies, Gareth, and David Solomon, and then Whedon and Greenwalt as show-runners. This was in S3. David Solomon was a director - not really a writer. And did a lot of the second unit directing for the series. Gallin was with Sand Dollar - which is Dolly Parton's production outfit. Gail Berman was with Fox and the WB.

If you think Buffy was just a Whedon show? You aren't paying attention to the credits. It really wasn't just Whedon's or Mutant Enemy's. Also ME and Whedon didn't own the rights to it. Fox, the Kazuis and Dolly Parton did.
Whedon had to ask their permission to continue with it. Fox's rights are now Disney's, Disney bought all of Fox's entertainment properties.

Also, here's the writing process as of 2003, per Jane Espenson, who was in the writer's room at the time:
the Writing Process by Jane Espenson )

Note that was in 2003. In 1997-1999, the head writers were David Greenwalt and Joss Whedon, and the studio and network had more of a say and Berman was more involved. When the show jumped over to UPN, Fox still had a say (that's the studio), but the network didn't care. So, what Espenson is leaving out - is the network and studio notes, which may or may not have existed on Whedon shows. The writing team was continuously changing, with various writers jumping from one Whedon Show to another one.

Carpenter made it clear during a con - that there's no reason to feel guilty loving Buffy, because of Whedon, since the show was a collaboration and Whedon's involvement, while heavy at times was by far not the main ingredient or the main oversight. It's not a novel, and it's not a series like Andor that is written and directed by one auteur. It's also not like Doctor Who, where the vast majority of episodes are written by one person and to a large part even directed by them.

This is an American Broadcast Television Series - they have about 400 people involved, we have editors, directors, guest directors, stunt coordinators, etc. To say Whedon had limited control over the proceedings, is a gross understatement. No one was purely in control over it.

Actually in my re-watch, I can now tell when they are using stunt doubles.

All change

Saturday, June 21st, 2025 11:10 am
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The reason British people talk about the weather all the damn time is that two weeks ago I got hailed on, yesterday was hot enough that I sweated through my clothes, and today there's haar stopping me seeing more than 100m.

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Saturday, June 21st, 2025 01:24 am
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Accountability Post
I've claimed a pinch hit with a very close due date. I need to write 500 words tonight to be on track, and 1k would be ideal. Even better would be if I wrote TWO fics so that the niche kink the prompter's letter made me think of isn't their only gift.

So the dream is that I complete a bit of weird, kinky porn (that DOES seem in line with their stated preferences) as well as a meaty bit of fluff for the same ship.
Below I've listed rewards to lure myself into doing it.

If I write the first sentence of each fic, I get half a strawberry Pop-Tart.
If I write 250 words, spread across either document, I get to watch one (1) Taskmaster task.
If I get to 300 words in any one document, I get the second half of the Pop-Tart.
If I get to 500 words, spread across either document, I get to watch another Taskmaster task.
If I get to the actual sex part of the porn fic, I get ice cream AND a Taskmaster task.
If I get to 750 words in any one document, I get the whole remaining Pop-Tart in the package.
If I get to 1K, spread across either document, Taskmaster task and long break.
 
Step one (Complete) Set up my docs with their requests + added data from prior stalking of their AO3 and social media profiles. Now to read a few of their oneshots with the pairing to get a sense of how they see the characters.
 
Step two (Complete) Read the [Fandom] fics they said were their favorites they've written in a social media post. Writing time!

Well. Guess who SEVERELY underestimated herself? I wrote 992 words in the first writing session, all for one fic. They're going to fuck in both fics, I've decided, but fic #2 will be more of a softcore fuck I'm certain the recipient will like. In light of my failure to estimate my capabilities, I will eat one Pop-Tart and watch one Taskmaster task, reserving the other rewards for when I'm further along in the second fic.

1.8K now, still all in fic #2, which was meant to be the backup. At least I'm solidly in the clear? Obviously I've not gotten to the actual sex. I'm going to eat another Pop-Tart. Fuck it.

Finally started fic #1 lmao. It's at 742 words and I AM at the actual sex. It's designed to actually stay around 1k, because I've learned from the behemoth fic #2 is threatening to become. I call that a Taskmaster break.

Fic #2 (you remember, the short backup fluff fic?) is now at 3.6k. I'm in sight of the ending. So close I can taste it. It's breaking 4k for sure. What is WRONG with me?

Fic #2 is complete at 4,007 words. I'll go ahead and post it so the exchange mods know not to worry about my recipient. Then I'll get my ideas in order for the remainder of fic #1 (which surely won't be too much longer) and go make bacon and cinnamon rolls for the people who actually slept around here.
 
 
 

I'll update as I go, but I do not have long at all and it's already a pinch hit! So feel free to poke me in the comments if I don't show signs of life.
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I've been re-watching Buffy, which I hadn't watched since roughly 2012? And I've picked up on various things that I didn't previously. Also, I'm astonished at how well it holds up for a series that aired between 1997-2003.

I've finished S2, and am into S3, which is a lot better than I remembered.
It doesn't have as many dud episodes, or skippable ones like S1 and 2 did.
S1 - the stand-a-lones were better, and S2 - the arc episodes were better. S3 - manages to hit the perfect balance between the two or it appears to, only six episodes in, but no duds yet. It also manages to do the same thing S2 did - which is bring in entertaining and creepy villains in Trick and the Mayor. I think they finally gathered together a good writing team - that gelled. With the additions of Jane Espenson and Doug Petrie to the mix.

Takeaways?

Beauty and the Beasts weirdly echoes Beneathe Me in S7. In both episodes, we have Buffy discover that the wicked vampire she was having an affair with, has returned somewhat crazy but with a soul. (Just differently.) And in both episodes there's a side story about a couple that is similar to Buffy's relationship to that vampire, but worse.
analysis )

Xander, can you be a bigger jerk? Apparently so. I hadn't realized how committed the writers were to exploring the incel theme with Xander until this rewatch. People mentioned it over the years, but I just wasn't that focused on Xander or handwaved it? Also, I didn't like Cordelia previously, now, I kind of do. If you really dislike Cordelia - it's hard to see how abusive Xander truly is.
analysis - if you are a Xander fan, you may want to skip, although I don't think there are any reading this any longer or Buffy fans for that matter - so not an issue )

* Cordelia is actually interesting? I'm surprised. But she is. And realistic. She's self-absorbed like well most people. And very much what Buffy might have been without the slayage - which the show always kind of got across.
She doesn't really have friends, but I'm not sure anyone truly does? Which is also interesting.

* Faith - I like better than I remembered. They are smart to not overuse the character, and go with less is more. I feel for Faith - Faith seems to care more about Buffy than Buffy cares about Faith. And genuinely wants to be friends with Buffy - but Buffy is distracted by Angel. It's an interesting writer choice that Cordy and Buffy fight off the people during slayerfest, while Faith goes to the prom by herself.

I can see why Faith eventually turns against Buffy and envies Buffy, part of this is on Buffy, Giles and the others. They cut Faith out in various ways. And are far too obsessed with their own romantic entanglements to see her or anyone else for that matter.

Romantic love (which I think is highly overrated) can often isolate, and alienate others - pushing people out of one's life. Romantic love that survives and becomes something greater such as friendship and companionship - brings people into one's life, as opposed to shutting them out. I think that is the test of a good relationship - does it bring in people or shut them out?

**

Not doing much today, outside of recovering from an illness. Back to work on Monday. It's sunny and windy outside, and in the low 80s. I may work on my book a bit, and maybe a little on my painting.

June Question a Day Memage and What Comforts You

Friday, June 20th, 2025 10:36 am
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I'm far behind on the June Question a Day Meme...so this is me, catching up:

7. When was the last time you thoroughly dusted and polished your furniture?

My furniture isn't really dust-able? It's cushioned. But I did dust the shelves, tv stand etc, last weekend.

8. Have you ever been fishing?

Yes. The appeal is completely lost on me. I feel sorry for the fish. I really don't like looking my food in the eye or seeing it caught. I'm more gatherer than hunter. Also, I'm not a fan of most fish, so there's that.
Did it once with my brother and father - in the lake in front of the Grand Tetons. My brother finally caught a fish, but had to throw it back, after it had been half-suffocated to death, because it wasn't the type of fish we could eat. I forget the name. And I remember thinking - that poor fish. I'd rather learn to paddle board (I don't paddle board).

9. Is there something that someone close to you does which really irritates you, but you’ve never said anything to them about it?

If it really irritates me - then I will tell them. Rarely does any good, so not entirely sure why I bother? Half the time, I just hand-wave it - because it rarely does any good. Some things folks can't help doing, they aren't aware of it and it is just them? Pointing it out doesn't help or change it, and it just hurts them to do so. Also we all have ticks and irritable behaviors that others must endure.

There are other things - that people can choose not to do and stop doing, or at the very least while others are around, which I've noticed pointing out to them - helps. Such as my mother played a very noisy video game version of Mahjon when I visited her last year, and she switched to Sudoku which was quieter, when I visited her in the Spring of this year.

10. Have you ever made mayonnaise from scratch?

Yes. I'm not really a fan of mayonnaise though. And don't use it at all on anything. But I have done it.
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Adding a question which is not part of the meme:

What is your current comfort television series or book series, which you've seen multiple times, or read multiple times, but continue to engage with?
[Note - not a new discovery, but something you've seen more than once, and go back to watch every few years? Or a book series, which you've read multiple times, listened to on audiobook or even graphic audio - more than once?]

Television Show: Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

Why? It's a series about how tough life is, but you can't give up, and it's worth it to keep trying no matter what. Also about fighting your own demons. And done with metaphors. I think metaphorically - so this works for me. And it has a very strong female protagonist who is the central point of view. It shows how people's relationships evolve and change with time, friendships change and don't necessarily always last, and loved ones die or change and move away. And it's important to help each other and others no matter how scary it might be. Helps that I love all the characters, and adore urban fantasy as a genre.

Book Series: Kate Daniels Magic Series by Illona Andrews (a writing couple)

Why? It's also a series about how tough life is, but you can't give up...and features a bad ass female protagonist. It's among the few that shows how relationships evolve and change, friendships don't always last for various reasons, and how it is important to help others, no matter how scary it might be. [See above.]

Do you have anything that you return to over and over again for comfort? Be it a book series, a television series, movie, or song or album?

(morning writing, health, dawg)

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Thursday morning

Tested negative yesterday afternoon; Christine strongly positive. Fingers crossed. Do i have a sore throat this morning, i wonder. (Every morning i go through latching onto some symptom to identify myself as coming down with COVID.)

Sick of masking. I am sitting outside (6:30 - 7:30 am) and have a collection of red spots which appear to be midge bites. Fie. I'm not sure our effective thermocell mosquito repeller is working on midges, and i don't remember having midge issues before... but i may have mistaken bite sites for something else like "chiggers."

Lunch time: I'm having one of my (mild!) trimengial neuraligia flares. But is there also a sore throat? I remembered our old scan-the-forehead thermometer: i'll start using it every time i am thinking, "Fever now?" and save the sanitation sleeves for once or twice a day.

Friday morning

No fever, but some sort of right side, ear to throat discomfort. Christine's sister, who seems a day ahead of Christine with symptoms, tested negative yesterday. Christine hopes to test negative today.

Carrie seems to have made it through two nights without her muzzle wearing just "pants" to protect her leg wounds. I did tape the cuff on the leg with the healing wounds one night, and the next just wrapped the one on her ankle so the pants (damp from the wet yard) could dry out.

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Chief Justice John Roberts wrote in the majority opinion ... He acknowledged the “fierce scientific and policy debates about the safety, efficacy and propriety” of the treatments, but wrote that those questions should be resolved by elected legislators

I have nothing nice to say about scientific debates being resolved by legislators.

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