tribble and I are a poly couple, we've just been together a year and never acted on it yet. the Ethical Slut is his recommendation to me as well. I plan to read it. The most important thing I think, is to check with your primary partner first. Have set rules about what is okay and what is not. With us, we've decided pretty much anything is okay as long as the one who wants it asks first. Then if i have a last minute freak out and i think it'll make things bad, I say no, or vice versa. It may be out of the moment to make that call, but try earlier in the evening. Ideally we want to share partners, though this can lead to more difficulties in finding partners (hence my frustration at not getting pussy, it's much easier to find when it's just for me) Consideration is the most important part, and putting your primary partner first, always.
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mmmag
a subject oft discussed
Date: 2002-12-02 11:51 pm (UTC)